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By V288MLV | December 12, 2024 | Categories: Health Improvement, Health Impact

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Abstract

There are many reflections on resilience, childhood trauma, and the shared experience of night terrors. Through a blend of personal narrative and psychological insights, the author delves into the impact of these events on emotional growth and self-awareness. The story begins with a startling early morning encounter, leading to broader reflections on empathy, support, and the importance of understanding the challenges faced by both children and adults in confronting their fears.

Resilience is often described as the ability to bounce back from adversity, but for many, it begins in the silent struggles of childhood. These early experiences, filled with confusion and fear, leave an indelible mark on our emotional framework. I consider myself quite the gem—a person who knows what I prefer and what I do not, someone unafraid to articulate their values. Yet, this confidence did not come easily. It was shaped by trials, moments of vulnerability, and a steadfast belief in my ability to overcome.

On a seemingly ordinary day, I was reminded of these challenges during a visit to a relative’s home. It was early morning, 2 a.m. to be exact, and I was startled awake by the cries of a child. What followed was not just a moment of caregiving but a deep dive into the memories of my own childhood fears. This essay explores the intersection of that experience with my personal journey toward resilience, offering insights into how we navigate fear and find strength through understanding and empathy.

The Early Morning Encounter

The stillness of the night was shattered by a piercing scream. The cries of a four-year-old child, filled with terror, echoed through the house. I had been staying at my relatives’ home, enjoying a brief respite from my daily routine. My usual 2 a.m. wake-up time, a practice born of necessity, was marked this time not by the calm start of a workday but by a child’s nightmare.

Concerned, I listened closely. The child was calling out for his auntie, his voice trembling with fear. For a moment, the silence that followed was deafening. It was clear he was in distress, yet no one immediately responded. I could hear the soft patter of little feet on the hardwood floor, slowly making their way down the stairs. I called out his name, but there was no reply. Minutes later, the sound of footsteps ascending told me he had sought solace at the foot of his uncle and auntie’s bed.

Eventually, he was brought back upstairs, but the incident lingered in my mind. His fear was palpable, and it stirred memories of my own childhood.

The Child’s Struggles

Night terrors, unlike ordinary nightmares, are episodes of intense fear during sleep, often accompanied by crying, screaming, or flailing. For this child, they were a recurring torment. I saw in his fear a reflection of my own younger self. As a child, I too experienced these episodes, waking in the dead of night to find myself screaming, consumed by an inexplicable dread.

When I dared to open my eyes, I was often met with what I can only describe as ghostly apparitions—figures that seemed to linger in the darkness. At the time, I lacked the understanding to process these experiences. The fear was overwhelming, the silence oppressive.

These episodes were not merely moments of fright; they were formative experiences. They shaped my perception of safety, vulnerability, and the need for comfort. Now, watching this child struggle, I felt a deep empathy. His cries reminded me of the isolation I once felt, the desperate need for reassurance that I was not alone.

The Significance of Memory and Resilience

Resilience is often forged in moments of fear and uncertainty. As I reflected on my childhood experiences, I realized how they had contributed to my growth. Each night terror, each moment of waking fear, was a lesson in survival. I learned to find strength within myself, to seek understanding in the midst of confusion.

Psychologists suggest that childhood fears, if unresolved, can linger into adulthood, manifesting as anxiety or other emotional challenges. However, they also highlight the role of supportive environments in fostering resilience. For me, the presence of family, even when they did not fully understand my struggles, provided a foundation of safety.

Watching this child, I was reminded of the importance of such support. His cries were met with eventual comfort, his fear acknowledged and soothed. In those moments, he was not alone, and neither was I as I revisited my own past.

Broader Reflections

This experience served as a powerful reminder of the interconnectedness of human emotion. Fear, though deeply personal, is something we all share. It binds us, reminding us of our vulnerabilities and our need for connection.

For the child, this episode was a fleeting moment of distress, but for me, it was an opportunity to reflect on the journey from fear to strength. It underscored the importance of empathy—not just for others but for ourselves. Acknowledging our struggles, past and present, allows us to grow.

As I moved through the day, the memory of that night stayed with me. It was a poignant reminder that resilience is not about the absence of fear but about facing it with courage and compassion.

Life is filled with moments that challenge us, that force us to confront our fears and find strength within. For me, the cries of a child in the early hours of the morning were not just a call for help but a call to reflect.

Through these experiences, I have come to understand the value of resilience, the importance of empathy, and the profound impact of our early fears on our adult lives. By facing these challenges head-on, we not only grow stronger but also learn to offer the understanding and support that others may need.

Resilience is not a solitary endeavor; it is built through connection, compassion, and the shared understanding of what it means to be human.

The Impact of Night Terrors on Childhood Development and Emotional Health

Night terrors are a common sleep disorder in children, characterized by intense episodes of fear and physical responses during non-REM sleep. The phenomenon of night terrors, differentiates it from nightmares, examines its developmental implications, coping mechanisms. Through a review of recent studies, this research emphasizes the need for early intervention and family support in managing these episodes effectively.

Harvard Medical School highlights night terrors occur during deep non-REM sleep, typically two to three hours after falling asleep, unlike nightmares, which occur during REM sleep and involve vivid dream recall.

Review

1. Prevalence and Patterns

Research shows that night terrors are most common in children aged 3-6, with a declining prevalence as they grow older. A longitudinal study noted that 56.2% of children experienced night terrors at some point before age 13, with occurrences linked to familial sleepwalking tendencies (JAMA Pediatrics).

2. Physiological and Psychological Aspects

Night terrors are associated with sudden arousals during deep sleep, causing rapid heart rate and visible distress. Unlike nightmares, they lack dream recall and are rooted in transitions between sleep stages (Harvard Medical School).

3. Parental and Environmental Factors

Stressful family environments, disrupted sleep routines, and parental history of parasomnias can increase susceptibility to night terrors in children (JAMA Pediatrics).

1. Developmental Implications

Night terrors may temporarily disrupt emotional regulation and behavioral development, although they are not usually indicative of underlying psychological conditions. Early childhood interventions, including establishing consistent bedtime routines, can mitigate the impact.

2. Coping Strategies for Families

Education for parents is crucial. Ensuring a safe environment during episodes and avoiding waking the child can help manage the condition effectively. Support groups and counseling may also benefit families dealing with chronic night terrors.

Conclusion

While night terrors are a phase of development for most children, they require awareness and proactive management to ensure the child’s emotional and physical safety. Future research could focus on long-term outcomes and the efficacy of intervention strategies.

References

• Harvard Medical School. (2015). Nightmares and the brain. Retrieved from Harvard Medical School.

• JAMA Pediatrics. (n.d.). Childhood sleepwalking and sleep terrors: A longitudinal study. Retrieved from JAMA Network.

• Mindell, J. A., & Owens, J. A. (2015). A Clinical Guide to Pediatric Sleep: Diagnosis and Management of Sleep Problems. Philadelphia, PA: Wolters Kluwer.

Early morning sound asleep as I’m dreaming of a field of athletes and performers the start is walking into an area full of some construction and a hay and light dirt covered ground. Those kinds of grounds collect oil and grime that happen to make the ground slippery if it were a different ground. As I’m walking into this area a change of scenery occurred and a horse nudged my leg trying to get me to saddle up and direct because a new living status is about to occur. As time passes in the dream I ended up having a friend pick me up as we drove around trying to make some plans and plans weren’t decided in so we got some snacks and headed home before the game. I ended up on a basketball court then onto the bleachers helping set up for an event there before the game starts. Normally we condition in the bleachers but I had to help with the game event before I could play. Walking through the basketball court I was deciding on a team to play for since I’ve always had the option but never had the chance to change my team. The event called out many different sports out to practice their best skills and techniques to show for the audience. There were basketball players, tennis players, dancers from the dance team, baseball, softball, singers, hockey, swim team, and a few other teams had to have their captains included from each team. Someone lost a ball and a few someone’s had to retrieve the ball and not try to intervene with the performers practice before the event started. Some of the coaches got mad. There were teams in the audience from different parts of the world showing up to watch a few of their best players at the event. One coach got mad some of the players from other teams were talking to each other making them lose focus on what they needed to be doing before the event starts. A few somebodies were familiar faces for me ranging from co-workers, family, or people I’ve met from other parts of the world and people from different states that I recognized and previously got acquainted with years ago showed up for moral support and I happen to know some of them. As to not let any of them distracted me, that received a distant hello and a gradual wave or smile from me. Not much for small talk because it’s always the same conversation or it ends up being an hour conversation of remember when… all the excitement and loudness coming from the bleachers got faint and I started to hear this loud knocking. The knocking continued as it woke me up, someone was in their bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, or it was knocking at the front door. Finally awake early morning it’s time to go to conditioning and meet up with the team if cancelled no excuses today is still workout day. Women have to keep their bodies in shape and be stretched out for the day ahead we never know who we have to save or be around if there is not a sweet set plan in play.

Waking up in a dry room can have these sort of health losses that make you wake up feeling refreshed and energized for the day not knowing if you should try to figure out what you need to change the dryness of the room or to give yourself some sort of fresh air. Normally it’s a time to open the windows and let the fresh morning air seep in through the window to change the aurora. I’m so used to be a busy busy so early in the morning it’s starting to become a routine that even though I can’t get done what I want, when I want I still find ways to stay busy and stay healthy, clean, and protected each day. Waking up each day is a silent reminder that someone else does not get the chance to wake up today. It is important to find your peace and value each day. Waking up to reality! Nothing ever goes as planned in this accursed world. The longer you live, the more you realize the only things that truly exist in this reality are merely pain, suffering, and futility. They say dreams, you can’t make it happen, yet it’s inevitable but this dream, it was a reminder and memory of something I used to be apart of. This dream did not happen yet because this could be someone else’s reality coming into play and activation serotonin and other compounds.

98% of people lose the game of reality. Most people view life as a battle and as long as you see life that way it is not a battle, it’s a game. Suffering, mishaps, and fortune… You can understand the cheat codes when you understand the way life is supposed to be.

There are five rules:

Rule 1: Reality is NOT a physical game.

You have to create your desired reality. Most people play the game of reality thinking it’s a physical game and professionally people are thirsty. Chances are you seen a parent work very hard to make changes. What you don’t understand is what you want and once you understand what reality is it’s not a physical action. It’s about understanding.

98% work hard to get result, take action. The people who truly win the game is people who play the game on their mental.

Mental-Spiritual Game

Until you break free from these lies you’re going to be trapped. There is the mental game and there is a physical game. The physical game is what we call reality and this is where people work hard.

Mental Plane-Cause

Physical Plane -Effect

If you change the effect you must change the cause. What most people do is take physical action without first changing the physical cause that’s changing the action.

Train. Practice. Study. Read.

E.g., let’s say someone needs to get in shape. You can take the physical action to get fit, unfortunately they’ll go to the gym for a couple weeks or a couple of months in all reality mentally their mind isn’t fit. Your mind can take you back into not being fit. This is how the real game is played.

These three words are important:

Be

Do

Have

98% of people think “if I do the physical action, I will have a desired reality then I will be the desired emotion. Some people think if they work hard they’ll get what they want and things don’t work that way. This is where some people fail.

I will be the mental attitude first then if I do action I will have desired reality. Mental attitude is a combination of the mind.

If you want to be rich you need to be rich before you can be rich. The true game is being able to align yourself with the mental attitude first. Make your mind fit then you can have the mental frequencies to be rich. Take the actions of whatever it is that is going to make you money. This is why millionaires can lose it all and get it back because they have the mental attitude of being naturally rich. This is how you reach and truly desire your reality.

Rule 2: You make the rules.

If anything you’ve provided in your truth is your reality. There is no truth other than what the subconscious mind thinks is true. Do you believe they aren’t going to take you serious because you’re a woman, than you’re right. Change your mind. Change your thoughts. Construct your reality. The reason it did or didn’t happen is because of your subconscious mind.

Don’t let your mind trick you. If the rules you make don’t lead you to where you need to be you need to make sure the bricks you’re arranging are making your reality. If the rules you have set for your life don’t pertain to one part of your desired reality you’re playing the game backwards. The moment you accept those rules. The game that you are playing are then structured in accordance to those rules. Not because that is how the game is set, but because that’s how you have set the game. You make the rules for your reality there are no truths there are ideas. This all needs to be your desired reality. I’m not here to tell you to wear all the crystals to build your reality. I don’t care if you take me serious.

Rule 3: You can’t have what you need.

Why is it that people who have the least money have it the most? Why is it that people that need the money most have it the least? The reason you can’t have what you need is importance.

Need=Importance=Space

When you need something when you have a big amount of importance the bigger the space. If you have the big space again, it’ll come down to the importance. The moment you can collapse the importance to your desired reality nothing can change.

Importance is another way of saying excess energy. Anything you want you’re not going to get it .

You want to experience a state you haven’t experienced. You can’t to feel content? Your desire is your middle man so cut out your middle man.

Rule 4: Strongest frequency wins!

The world we live in now is determined by the one with the strongest frequency. Your ability to maintain conviction in your desired reality already existed. Anytime the world makes you use your desired conviction you will lose and submit and the world will put you in a place where you don’t want to go. Think about the reality you want to live towards. Recognize your desired reality so you don’t lose. Whenever you try to materialize, you will start to win. As long as you can maintain conviction, keep a routine and until you see your bank account as zero that means your frequency isn’t strong enough. You need to be rich and peaceful and your revenue needs to improve before the world gives it to you. That’s how you get the strongest frequency.

Rule 5: Reality doesn’t care if you are NICE.

Why bad things happen to good people? Some can never understand why some of these angels are the nicest people you will ever meet. Reality doesn’t care if you’re nice. Indoctrination. On the highest level the concept of morality changes things. It’s okay to say, “That’s not going to happen.” The human concept of reality. Moral conceptions of reality the universe doesn’t care. The only thing the universe cares about is your frequency and that’s not determined by your mental attitude it’s self concept. Self concept is emotionally convinced. Your thoughts aren’t enough. Who do you truly feel yourself to be? Your emotions are one thing and that goes to your subconscious mind. The universe doesn’t care. People have amazing self concepts and think they can get whatever they want and their vibration isn’t always right. But they do have great frequencies. Good people have terrible mental attitudes, they self doubt themselves. Why do bad things happen to good people?

Be at your highest level to please the universe. That’s the real game. Make sure your concepts align with your reality.

Bad self concepts ruin frequencies. Don’t be trapped in confinement.

You have to be very, very particular in the way you see the world around you. Change the way you look at life.

How do you win the game of reality?

Ask yourself that question. Most people will say I don’t know.

Do you know what your clear and clean slate is?

First change the cause to change the effect. The mirror does not smile before you do. That’s a statement. Take notes. This isn’t just for fun. We need to ensure you have the cause to desire your reality. Wrap it up. How to win reality is a season of many changes that have to be made. Start taking action and be successful.

When you get ready each day whenever that time is right for you. You are in the store, the shop, the gym, or any appointment living life as if you’re going to run into someone that you know. Guess that’s not going to happen at all. You can live your life waiting on people to show up for you. If you wait around for someone to show up you can’t be making any memorable memories with anyone whatsoever. Stop waiting on someone else. Your so called friends or guys or women you mess with will literally stand you up acting like they are going to show up and make some plans with you. It’s either going to happen or it’s not.

When someone gets in your lane that when you realize how quick someone can tire you out.

Today happened

Got laundry done, accomplished, and finished.

It’s okay to wait sometimes no matter how quickly you want to get something done.

Being taught forward to only realize a different trainer teaches you otherwise.